Yup, I know that one. I can actually hear the voice of my mother in my head when I look at certain body types. I really took care to never say those things out loud with my kids present. (Or even without them). Hoping to break the cycle that way.
I’ve never heard of the revolving slate concept, but I definitely resonate with it! There’s a great passage in My Brilliant Friend where the narrator feels her mother’s body growing within her, which seems like a different metaphor for a similar thing we fear but can’t always control. Love that you recognized it and scrambled (literally!) the signal!
Thank you for sharing this! Great food for thought, "separating what’s mine and what isn’t," is something that I think will always be a work in progress for me.
Also I think for some of my relatives, as they age they are losing their filter, so will say things they might have kept to themselves before. Maybe also that I'm not a kid anymore they feel OK to say things they might not have before. So then when/how much do I push back? Sometimes just asking, "what do you mean by that?" gets them to reconsider, or at least have a bit of conversation. But also I can't necessarily change them, so yeah, the what's mine and what isn't...
Yup, I know that one. I can actually hear the voice of my mother in my head when I look at certain body types. I really took care to never say those things out loud with my kids present. (Or even without them). Hoping to break the cycle that way.
I’ve never heard of the revolving slate concept, but I definitely resonate with it! There’s a great passage in My Brilliant Friend where the narrator feels her mother’s body growing within her, which seems like a different metaphor for a similar thing we fear but can’t always control. Love that you recognized it and scrambled (literally!) the signal!
Thank you for sharing this! Great food for thought, "separating what’s mine and what isn’t," is something that I think will always be a work in progress for me.
Also I think for some of my relatives, as they age they are losing their filter, so will say things they might have kept to themselves before. Maybe also that I'm not a kid anymore they feel OK to say things they might not have before. So then when/how much do I push back? Sometimes just asking, "what do you mean by that?" gets them to reconsider, or at least have a bit of conversation. But also I can't necessarily change them, so yeah, the what's mine and what isn't...
Oh boy. Don’t get me started. I like how you open the floor for conversation. Keep it up!
Haha, I love your mom's (cropped) face and expression: OH?
You’re so funny!! My mom has passed away, but she could blurt out some hair raising judgments! 😅
Dat herken ik, mijn moeder zegt ook wel eens zulke dingen. Break the cycle.